This post is a little late, due to the fact we were on the road much of yesterday. A post on our first road trip together as a family is coming up tomorrow!
My Darling McKenna,
I can hardly believe that you are 4 months already. Time sure speeds up once you have children! You are growing so much, so fast, every single day.
Here’s a little peek as to what you have been up to this month:
You are still nursing like a champ. We barely even use the pump anymore; as a mother I have become more comfortable with feeding you whenever, wherever necessary. I still do pump the occasional bottle when I know nursing in public will be an inconvenience; but you have made it clear you much prefer the breast these days. The only difficulty we have had with regards to our nursing relationship this month, is that in the past week or so, you have begun the process of teething. I expect your bottom two teeth will make an appearance some time later this month. As a result, sometimes the process of suckling can be painful for you, causing you to have shorter feeds and more often. This doesn’t bother me so much – one of the most amazing things I love about nursing is the ability it gives me to steal cuddles from you, my little love, several times a day, so as a result, I am just getting even MORE bonding time than usual! Lucky, lucky me!
We still intend to go a minimum of a year, which is A-MAZING, because before you were even born, I always said I would do it for the first 6 months. Then we had our issues, and I almost quit altogether. Now things are just going so great, and you are so HEALTHY, that I have changed my goal to a year, and am even looking into the benefits of extended nursing past one year. I just LOVE the bond we have from our nursing sessions, how I get to steal cuddles multiple times a day, the way you look into my eyes with such love, and knowing that I am doing the absolute best thing I can for you. It is truly the best feeling in the world.
We are not ready to start solids yet although your pedi said we can make that decision at anytime. But as mentioned, you are thriving so we see no reason to rush this process!
Your sleeping habits have also changed quite a bit this month. Sometime around the middle of March, I made the decision to take a step back from trying to establish a bed time with you. This turned out to be a great idea, as you have now set a bed time for yourself. I usually wait for signs that you are tired, which tends to be anywhere between 7:30 and 8:30, then Daddy will give you a quick bath every 2 or 3 days. After that I cuddle you close while we read a story, and I nurse you to sleep. Works like charm, almost every night. We still have the occasional night where you do NOT want to go to sleep like, ever, even if we can tell you are completely exhausted. These nights usually end with you having a fussy period before finally falling asleep.
Your nighttime wake times are about the same as they were last time we wrote, with you having a long 4 hour stretch at the beginning of the night, and then having a feed every 2 hours until your wake up, at about 9:30 or 10. At your last pedi appointment, he said that we should be looking towards dropping one or two of these feedings, as you are now at the age and weight to be sleeping through the night (it is important to mention; sleeping through the night for a baby is defined as 6 hours). As such, we have made it a goal to gradually drop these nighttime feedings, and we feel the best way to do this, is to finally make the transition into your crib, as we are still co-sleeping.
Yes, we are co-sleeping. We made the decision to also stop fighting this in mid-March. Truth be told, we have yet to even attempt to put you into your crib at night, as neither your father & I are truly ready to have you be in your own room. But you have made it clear that you will not sleep, even to nap, anywhere other than our bed or your own crib. In all honesty, I have grown to LOVE co-sleeping. We are as soothed by your presence as you are by ours. But we believe one of the reasons you are waking so often to feed is the ease of the source. I am always right next to you and you simply just need to turn your head to be fed. Not only this, your father is starting a shutdown this month (a long stretch of work with no days off) and at times, we wake him during our nightly feeds. Lastly, a new development: I recently caught my first cold in almost 8 months, and you nor your father have yet to catch it. I hope to keep it this way, and I am sure that bed-sharing spreads germs much easier. Thus, we have made the decision, and will be attempting the transition soon. I would like this to be as smooth a transition as possible for both you and me. One thing you have made clear McKenna – you know what is best for you. Everything thus far in our parenting journey has been dictated by what works for you, and eventually, it begins to coincide with what works for us.
You love your playtime. Your favorite toys include your play mat, Bruin, Sophie the Giraffe, Nugget the monkey, mirrors, and your recently introduced excersaucer. You no longer enjoy your swing like you used to, or sitting in your boppy in the living room. You are truly your happiest when you can move your legs and arms around freely. You love bing put into a standing position, and as long as Daddy or I are holding you tight, you will stay upright for many, many minutes. You also love tummy time, and you are getting SO, SO strong. You have now begun to not only lift your head as high as it can possibly go, but you have also begun to flail those cute little feet of yours in an effort to move. I think you will be motoring around this house in absolutely no time, so we better get baby-proofing!
That being said, your favorite thing of all is when Daddy or I play with you. You love language, watching our lips move and trying to mimic the noises we make. You have a fascination with nursery rhymes, and are starting to enjoy when we play with you more physically, such as bouncing you on our laps or dancing around the living room. You love story time and are still perfectly content staring at the pictures. You also like to help your Mama turn the page – cutest thing EVER.
You have discovered your voice even more this month, and the cutest noises come out of you every single day. Your favorite noise these days is your high pitched squeak – video to follow shortly – that you do at least 100 times a day. Your Auntie Helen witnessed this for the first time today, and lovingly has now nicknamed you “baby donkey”. J You are the happiest baby I have ever met, and your constant smiles are such a gift to both your father and I. They light up the entire room.
Onto your looks. You are becoming such a beautiful girl McKenna. Sometimes I look at you and wonder how you can possibly be mine. You have such perfect features – features that many women pay money to have – and you have no idea how lucky you are. Your beautiful big blue eyes are what we receive the most compliments on. Multiple times a day. Besides your gorgeous blue eyes, you have stunning long eyelashes, the cutest little dimples, an absolutely perfect complexion, big red lips, and a tiny button nose. You truly are the best possible combination of your father & I, and then some!
One of the things I will clearly need to teach you early on is that although you are undoubtedly going to be a stunning girl, your looks are not everything McKenna. Brains are beautiful too. I want to teach you to be a strong, independent girl, that can stand on her own two feet and not have to rely on those incredible looks of yours. We will teach you that kindness is important, and personality contributes more to your beauty than your looks ever can.
So that’s it my dear McKenna. Another month, another 31 days of such beautiful, priceless moments. Every day is such a gift with you. You are turning into such a little character, and I am having so much fun exploring this big world with you. I cannot wait until the warm days of Spring and Summer, wherein we can have new adventures, and I can show you all the things I have been waiting for since that day you were placed into my arms that cold December morning. I love you to the moon and back, then back to the moon again, a million times over.